I have this amazing purple orchid in my kitchen.\u00a0 Someone gave it to me years ago, and I keep watering it and moving it to the place with the right amount of light.\u00a0 I have read about how to repot it, and what to do with those weird root tendril things.\u00a0 Apparently orchids like to be a little smooshed in their pots, unlike other plants who like their roots to roam around in large pots.\u00a0 Every so often, if I do everything right, my orchid blooms, with 10 glorious white and purple flowers on a single stem.\u00a0 But there have also been years that have passed by without a single bloom.<\/span><\/p>\n Sex is like a delicate orchid.\u00a0 If tended properly, it brings rare, precious, exuberant beauty.\u00a0 But if any part of its care is neglected, it just doesn\u2019t work.\u00a0 And often what it needs are not the things you expect.<\/span><\/p>\n Many patients talk with me about problems in their sex lives.\u00a0 Many things can go wrong with sex, including:<\/span><\/p>\n Any of these problems can interfere with people\u2019s ability to have sex or enjoy sex. The good news is that all of these conditions have highly effective treatments! The Healing Grove team would love to work with you to experience the best possible sex with your partner or spouse!<\/p>\n The best sex happens between highly committed people.\u00a0 If you know that you will stay together no matter what, there is no pressure.\u00a0 Nobody has to perform.\u00a0 You can actually talk about embarrassing things and be vulnerable together.\u00a0 If you are able to be emotionally intimate, then you will be better at being physically intimate as well.\u00a0 Marriage is the traditional way to seal a relationship in a promise, which can give both parties the freedom to know that they will stay together regardless of what happens.<\/span><\/p>\n The best sex is generous sex.\u00a0 Each partner should be thinking, \u201cWhat can I do to make my partner happy?\u201d rather than, \u201cWhat should my partner do to make me happy?\u201d\u00a0 It is one of those mysteries of life – it seems like the more one takes, the more he or she will have.\u00a0 But the very opposite is true; the more one gives in a sexual relationship, the more enjoyment he or she will experience.<\/span><\/p>\n The best sex starts hours before the actual sex act.\u00a0 If you know your spouse\u2019s love language, you have an advantage here.\u00a0 If your spouse\u2019s love language is <\/span>acts of service<\/span><\/i>, then you can do the dishes or fold the clothes.\u00a0 If your spouse\u2019s love language is <\/span>physical touch<\/span><\/i>, give him a back massage while he checks his email.\u00a0 If your spouse\u2019s love language is <\/span>gifts<\/span><\/i>, go buy her some sparkly earrings.\u00a0 <\/span>Quality time<\/span><\/i>?\u00a0 Go out to coffee together and talk about your week.\u00a0 <\/span>Words of affirmation<\/span><\/i>?\u00a0 Tell her what you love about her, or how proud you are of something she did recently.\u00a0 All of this should happen the same day you will have sex, but quite a bit earlier.<\/span><\/p>\n When it is time to have sex, make sure you have plenty of time.\u00a0 Nobody wants it to be rushed.\u00a0 This is especially important for women, and even more important as they get older.\u00a0 Many post-menopausal women need at least 30 minutes of slow kissing and foreplay before she will be at all interested in sex.\u00a0 Older men also may need a little more stimulation than younger men to achieve and maintain a sufficient erection for sex to work well.\u00a0 You may want to go to bed early or clear the schedule for several hours to make sure the sex is not rushed.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Appearance, hygiene, and health are very important.\u00a0 People who exercise regularly have better sex than people who are out of shape.\u00a0 People with diabetes whose sugars are controlled perform better than people with high sugars.\u00a0 It is good to work on your appearance so that your partner finds you attractive.\u00a0 Everyone should take showers and brush their teeth before having sex.\u00a0 We all look older with time, and you should not expect yourself or your partner to look younger than you are, but it is also a kindness to try to maintain some attractiveness for your partner.\u00a0 One of the great mysteries of marriage is that couples who grow in emotional intimacy and love with age also can find each other more attractive with age, as they come to understand their partner\u2019s inner beauty more.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The setting is also very important.\u00a0 The place should be comfortable and private, free from interruption.\u00a0 This can be super challenging when there are young children around, or if you live in a small apartment.\u00a0 Turn off your phones, wait until the kids are asleep, and go for it!\u00a0 This can be a reason for dad to take the kids to the park and chase them around for 2 hours earlier in the day.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Stay away from pornography.\u00a0 Partners who are looking at porn will have unrealistic expectations of their real partners.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Don\u2019t cheat on your spouse.\u00a0 It isn\u2019t worth it.\u00a0 Actually work out your problems; you will be glad you did – five years from now.<\/span><\/p>\n People often feel like they are supposed to do something exotic to make sex \u201cgood.\u201d\u00a0 This is fine if both parties want it, but often regular old-fashioned garden variety sex is simpler and highly satisfying if the couple does it well.<\/span><\/p>\n Sometimes the problem is more about a problem in the relationship.\u00a0 If people do not like each other, they will not have great sex.\u00a0 All couples need couples counseling at some point in their relationship, and we highly recommend seeking help if that is your situation.<\/span><\/p>\n If you are having sexual problems, please feel free to talk with us about it at Healing Grove!\u00a0 We love helping couples solve their problems, and finding more satisfying sex lives together.<\/span>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_spacing=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/6″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row type=”full_width_background” full_screen_row_position=”middle” column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” bg_color=”#dce1de” scene_position=”center” top_padding=”50px” bottom_padding=”50px” text_color=”dark” text_align=”left” row_border_radius=”none” row_border_radius_applies=”bg” id=”benefits” overlay_strength=”0.3″ gradient_direction=”left_to_right” shape_divider_position=”bottom” bg_image_animation=”none” shape_type=””][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_spacing=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][vc_custom_heading text=”The Healing Grove Advantage”][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”left”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_spacing=”default” centered_text=”true” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][nectar_icon icon_family=”iconsmind” icon_style=”shadow-bg” icon_color_type=”color_scheme” icon_color=”extra-color-gradient-2″ icon_padding=”25px” icon_iconsmind=”iconsmind-Check” icon_size=”40″][vc_custom_heading text=”Annual Health Care Exam” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:center” use_theme_fonts=”yes” css=”.vc_custom_1620147965163{margin-top: 10px !important;margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”][vc_column_text]Every year, you receive an extended visit with your personal Healing Grove doctor. We help you strive toward holistic wellness through our intensive health and spiritual care.<\/p>\n Your personal doctor guides you through a comprehensive health and soul care assessment, helping you develop a plan to become the very best version of yourself![\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_spacing=”default” centered_text=”true” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][nectar_icon icon_family=”iconsmind” icon_style=”shadow-bg” icon_color_type=”color_scheme” icon_color=”extra-color-gradient-2″ icon_padding=”25px” icon_iconsmind=”iconsmind-Pulse” icon_size=”40″][vc_custom_heading text=”Spiritual Care” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:center” use_theme_fonts=”yes” css=”.vc_custom_1623277010242{margin-top: 10px !important;margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”][vc_column_text]We understand you\u2019re more than a machine. You are a complex mix of body, soul, mind, machine, and heart.<\/p>\n Our physicians come from the Christian faith tradition. We provide equal doses of medications and prayer, physical treatments and spiritual care. Whatever your faith tradition, you\u2019ll be welcomed and comfortable here.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_spacing=”default” centered_text=”true” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][nectar_icon icon_family=”iconsmind” icon_style=”shadow-bg” icon_color_type=”color_scheme” icon_color=”extra-color-gradient-2″ icon_padding=”25px” icon_iconsmind=”iconsmind-Clock-Forward” icon_size=”40″][vc_custom_heading text=”Connected To Your Doctor, 24\/7″ font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:center” use_theme_fonts=”yes” css=”.vc_custom_1623276982633{margin-top: 10px !important;margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”][vc_column_text]We care about you during business hours AND after business hours. Every patient receives the personal cellphone number of their doctor. Whether emergencies, check-ins, or urgent care, we\u2019re there for you!<\/p>\n Get in contact directly with a doctor who personally knows and cares for you. Your personal doctor is just a click away.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”left”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_spacing=”default” centered_text=”true” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][nectar_icon icon_family=”iconsmind” icon_style=”shadow-bg” icon_color_type=”color_scheme” icon_color=”extra-color-gradient-2″ icon_padding=”25px” icon_iconsmind=”iconsmind-Chair” icon_size=”40″][vc_custom_heading text=”Zero Wait Time For Your Doctor” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:center” use_theme_fonts=”yes” css=”.vc_custom_1623276971493{margin-top: 10px !important;margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”][vc_column_text]At other clinics, you wait in a waiting room, waste time filling out forms, and then wait some more for the doctor in the clinical rooms. At Healing Grove, you don\u2019t wait for the doctor. The doctor is waiting for you![\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_spacing=”default” centered_text=”true” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][nectar_icon icon_family=”iconsmind” icon_style=”shadow-bg” icon_color_type=”color_scheme” icon_color=”extra-color-gradient-2″ icon_padding=”25px” icon_iconsmind=”iconsmind-Handshake” icon_size=”40″][vc_custom_heading text=”Personal Relationship With Your Doctor” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:center” use_theme_fonts=”yes” css=”.vc_custom_1623276990007{margin-top: 10px !important;margin-bottom: 20px !important;}”][vc_column_text]At Healing Grove, we build a personal relationship with you. We want to know what makes you tick, what you care about, and what you’re struggling with. 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Committment<\/h3>\n
Generous Sex<\/h3>\n
Before Sex<\/h3>\n
Plenty of time<\/h3>\n
Setting<\/h3>\n
Things to avoid<\/h3>\n
Working towards great sex!<\/h3>\n
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