{"id":2410,"date":"2023-04-04T09:02:03","date_gmt":"2023-04-04T16:02:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/conciergehg.wpengine.com\/?p=2410"},"modified":"2023-04-04T09:31:05","modified_gmt":"2023-04-04T16:31:05","slug":"is-my-teen-using-drugs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healinggrove.org\/sanjose\/2023\/04\/04\/is-my-teen-using-drugs\/","title":{"rendered":"Is my teen using drugs?"},"content":{"rendered":"[vc_row type=”full_width_background” full_screen_row_position=”middle” column_margin=”default” equal_height=”yes” content_placement=”bottom” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” scene_position=”center” top_padding=”200px” bottom_padding=”50px” text_color=”dark” text_align=”left” row_border_radius=”none” row_border_radius_applies=”bg” overlay_strength=”0.3″ gradient_direction=”left_to_right” shape_divider_position=”bottom” bg_image_animation=”none” shape_type=””][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” 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The stress of parenting a teenager<\/h3>\n

A lot of teens have secrets, and a lot of teens lie.\u00a0 This gives parents panic attacks around 3 am.\u00a0 What can parents do? How do you know if your son or daughter is abusing drugs?<\/span><\/p>\n

First of all, don\u2019t follow the advice from the movies.\u00a0 In the movies, cool parents try to build their relationships with their teens by telling them, \u201cI trust you,\u201d and then leaving them alone for the weekend.\u00a0 Teenage brains are still developing and maturing. They need small opportunities to build trust AND they need a lot of oversight. The key to parenting teens is to strike a balance between trust and oversight.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The best parents give their kids just enough freedom to learn to make good decisions, or to make mistakes and then learn from it. However, parents shouldn’t give their kids enough limits to prevent a life altering mistake. With teenage overdose deaths<\/a> at all time highs, it’s important to get the balance of freedom and oversight right.<\/p>\n

Trust but Verify<\/h3>\n

Like the famous Russian proverb, the best plan is “Trust, but Verify”. At Healing Grove, we offer parents the ability to regularly test their kids for drugs. When the drug test comes back negative, it builds trust between parents and teenagers. As a teenager proves that they can make good decisions, parents can give them more freedom. If a drug test comes back positive, then the parent knows that it’s time to draw stricter limits. A drug test is a great way to definitively learn if your teenager is using drugs.<\/p>\n

Start with honesty<\/h3>\n

Start by building a culture of honesty in the home.\u00a0 Be honest with them.\u00a0 Tell them how you have made mistakes.\u00a0 The best stories are about the hilarious and embarrassing mistakes you made as a teen, and why you now regret or celebrate those mistakes.\u00a0 How did the mistakes change you?\u00a0 Make it clear that mistakes are expected and forgiveness will happen again and again in your home.\u00a0 Let them know that you will love them no matter what, but they will also receive consequences along with the love.<\/span><\/p>\n

Talk about drugs and alcohol in your family<\/h3>\n

Tell them the truth about your expectations around sex, drugs, and rock-n-roll.\u00a0 Every family is a little bit different here, and it is extremely surprising how <\/span>few <\/span><\/i>teens know what their house rules are.\u00a0 I straight up ask them in the exam room after I kick out the parents.\u00a0 Here are some examples:<\/span><\/p>\n